In my antenatal and birthing classes, I see all sorts of dads-to-be. From the super-enthusiastic, wanting to learn everything they possibly can to help their partner at birth and avoid being a spare part. To the reluctant ones, who worry they may be more of a hinderance than a help during birth. And then there are those who are not apprehensive about the birth, but about my classes.
In recent years antenatal classes have become part of the ritual of becoming a dad (or co-parent with same sex couples). But still there are many who come to their first one, clearly not at all sure why they are even there.
Common Fears for Dads To Be
Perhaps it seems like they are going back to school? Or they are afraid of the pressure to be touchy-feely with other parents, who have nothing in common other than having a baby. Or, perhaps they are nervous of being exposed as ignorant or even ambivalent about having a baby in the first place?
How antenatal classes help men
I like to think these uncertainties are eased by the way my classes are run in a package.
By embarking on the full package of pregnancy yoga, birth classes and parenting classes, it means the mums-to-be are already comfortable with each other before the couples course begins because they’ve done the yoga first.
I hope to create a fun atmosphere where no one has to get everything right. The partner’s role is crucial in birth and preparing for birth. In the classes we practice and talk about strategies for providing the kind of support that a labouring woman and new mother needs, as well as ways to relate with babies in their own right.
The men in the classes feed back to me that they come away feeling they have got something for themselves. Not just because they are being helpful to their partner, but in their own right.
As well as becoming fully prepared for birth and parenting you will make great friends too. Groups go out for supper or form their own What’s app groups. Dads bring their babies for yoga together before a celebratory reunion with everyone. So you never know what you will get out of it.
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